Hi my name is Katie welcome to todays modern love.  Do you understand love, the opposite sex and matters of the heart?  No matter what area you need help in I'm confident you will soon know how to enjoy great love in your life.

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You see just as each of us has our own unique personality we fall into a category with others sharing the same type of personality.  This holds true for love as well.  We each fall into a category of love types.  These love types describe what we are capable of giving, receiving, our ideas about love and what love means for us.  

What means love to you may not mean love to another and visa versa.  You'll understand as you read further learning the types of love.  Learning these truths earns you a degree in matters of the heart.  This degree fills your brain with knowlege that will fill your heart with the love that is just right for you.   Finally you're about to have all those unanswered questions as to why answered.

It's easy to find the missing link to your love life by simply;

1)  Learning the 3 types of relationships

1. Long Term Committed

2. Short Term Romance

3. Healthy Friendship

2)  Learning the 6 types of love

1. Eros Love

2. Pragma Love

3. Storage Love

4. Agape Love

5. Ludus Love

6. Mania Love

3)  Use this understanding to start a new relationship while improving and maintaining existing relationships, this works for every relationship in your life!

How to Really Know if Someone Loves You?  

You may be asking yourself if a special someone feels the same way about you as you do them?  Women often feel they will never find the perfect man and yet there is a man for you.  Where as many men feel the same just like women there is that perfect woman in sync with you.  Love is a complex emotion, one running the gamut from friendship to passion. It can often times be unclear as to exactly what category your love interest falls into.  We often protect ourselves safeguarding our true feelings. The trouble with withholding is missing out on what could be the love of your life. While it can be difficult to know if they love you or not, there are many sure fire ways to tell.  Once you realize your true potential to be with the right match you will be confident and worry free.

I have found a method to this madness once and for all, it’s not hard to tell and leaves no room for doubt! We tend to make way to big a thing of love yet once you learn the facts, I cover here today, it becomes childs play.

Love is a basic and simple emotion all healthy people experience, need and crave! Knowing the types of love is a good place to start when it come to understanding your connection to another.

During the introduction phase you come to know this person and get a warm and tingly feeling inside as you embrace and adore their qualities and little quirks! You find yourself branching out and feeling a desire to try it their way and approach life a bit differently enjoying their take on things. As you read on you will come to realize this process is more about a display of your loving abilities questioning your own lovable factor. Most of us experience a lot of self doubt in the area of love.

What you really need to know is if the object of your affection is capable of giving you what you desire. To do this you must understand the type of love you naturally seek and need determining if the person in question is a compatible match to you.

The different types of relationships;

1.                      Long-term committed

2.                      Short-term romance

3.                      Healthy friendship

All of these involve a different type of love and it is by understanding these different types of love you will come to your answer.

It’s not about you and what you have to offer, it’s about what others are capable of. We can never expect a person to change into the type of love we need. Embrace who you are and the understanding of others and enjoy winning at love!

Canadian sociologist John Lee provides helpful insights with his work on the theory of love. Getting a base understanding as to how others love will give you many an AHA moment and save you much wasted time in the area of love.

The Types of Love

Eros Love - is a romantic love which involves physical attraction and desire for another primarily in this regard. Eros love often fizzles out quickly as it is best know as a relationship of lust and while intense with passion is hard to maintain. An Eros lover craves the rush of the first burst of romantic steamy love with a less intense focus on the emotional aspects of love.

Pragma Love - is rational and practical. The pragma type seeks a lover based on requirements that meet their needs. Pragma lovers choose partners through a checklist of qualities in the areas of; education, income, social status, parenting gene potential, and the possessions they’ve acquired. The pragma does not focus on the emotional aspects of love in their relationships.  Pragma lovers are detail oriented people and when it comes to matters of the heart a long list of details goes into the planning.  

Storage Love - base their love lives on friendship playing it safe. This begins with a strong friendship developing into feelings of stronger love and romantic intimacy. The area of sex is less important to the storage lover as they more highly regard common interest, caring compassion and a tight bond which they feel will stand the test of time. A storage approach to love is less about romance, if at all, and more about the bond of a time tested friendship.  Storage lovers hold certainty above all else and often seem to settle for someone they may not truly be in love with all the while they secretly doubt the existence of true love.

Agape Love - is one of selflessness a family bond sort of love. It is known as “divine love” as it is self sacrificing and altruistic love. As per the dictionary - Altruism is selfless concern for the welfare of others.  It is a traditional virtue in many cultures, and a core aspect of various religious traditions such as Judaism, Christianity, Islam, Hinduism, Jainism, Buddhism, Confucianism, Sikhism, and many others.  Agape love is best suited for the love of God, Martyrs and Saints as a healthy romantic love requires a give and take where as Agape love is based fully on giving.

Ludus Love - is one of fun and games. Ludos lovers crave excitement and the rush of adrenaline.  A Ludus is more about the high attained when first forming a relationship.  They are most enchanted with the persuit, the winning of anothers attentions and often pick others by the degree of the challenge per their whim of the moment.  The ludas lover grows bored just past the win when it comes to the building and nurturing of a long term relationship. They love the thrill of the chase and that of a new conquest.  The ludas type is not long term relationship material.

Mania Love - is one of the fatal attraction sort although not always as drastic it is one wild and crazy ride.  A manic lover is possessive, jealous, controlling and dependent all at once.  These are all signs of an addictive relationship and not a healthy romantic love.  A mania love most often seems over whelmed with turmoil, extreme over reactions, obsession all of which can lead to stalking, threats and or even worse.   This sort of love takes off like a whirlwind, one moving so fast you find yourself dazed and confused at times while the other person whirls at 100 miles an hour.  Be cautious of these types and end it quick and swiftly before time flys by...

This is the much needed wake up call for many, to realize the differences in ones ability to love is key to developing successful romance, relationships and over all love in ones life. NOW that you've learned the facts you will easily identify others ability to love, their type or style and to what degree others relate to your style and needs. Finally and all the more important you have everything you need to avoid those who don't. This eliminates much pain, suffering and time.  How many years have you lost on the wrong love?  Waste no more.

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Food for Thought - We often dig in our heals, convincing ourselves we love someone we actually may not or even cannot love, nor them us!  It comes down to that aweful stigma of rejection.   The threat of rejection often drives us to succeed with a person who's completely wrong for us driving the mismatched relationship in the ground.  The truth of the matter is; your not failing at love, your failing to match yourself with the right type, you my friend have been barking up the wrong tree.  The people you feel rejected by were not rejecting you at all, they were just doing what their sociological make-up allows them, all the while not understanding or clicking with yours.   Are you getting the picture now?


All of us are different, we are who we are and must learn to embrace our truth.  We cannot love just anyone, they must be a good match, one that compliments who we are and can mirror the same to them in turn.   There is a lot of love to be enjoyed in this world, plenty for everyone.  Do what you need to enjoy love in your life, be like the successful people of the world,  give it a go, admit when it's not working and move on to the next adventure.  You'll be amazed when the perfect love ariives as you will have no doubt about it.  You'll be glad you held out for the one just for you! 

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Much Love and Happiness, Katie